What If You’re Not Lost—You Just Need a New Definition of Success?
You Ever Wonder Why You’re Working So Hard?
I spent years chasing goals, promotions, and achievements—always believing that once I hit the next milestone, I’d finally feel fulfilled.
And in my work? I was great at this.
I’ve built high-performing teams from the ground up.
I’ve led organizations through massive transformations.
I’ve helped teams get crystal clear on their purpose, vision, and mission so they could move forward with alignment and confidence.
This wasn’t some abstract concept for me—I knew how important clarity was for success.
But when it came to myself?
When it came to what actually brought me joy?
That’s where I had work to do.
I wasn’t lost.
I wasn’t stuck.
But I wasn’t fully aligned, either.
Because so much of what I thought I needed to be “successful” wasn’t about me.
It was about what I thought success should look like.
And the more I started questioning it? The more I realized that clarity isn’t just for work.
It’s for your whole damn life.
Why Clarity Actually Matters (And Why You Feel Stuck Without It)
Without clarity, everything starts to feel:
Urgent, but not important.
Like you’re achieving a lot, but still unfulfilled.
Like no matter what you do, it never feels like enough.
And that’s exhausting.
When you’re in achievement mode, it’s easy to assume the answer is to do more.
But sometimes, the real answer is pausing long enough to make sure you’re actually climbing the right damn ladder.
That’s where clarity comes in.
The Three Questions to Redefine Success for Yourself
Instead of letting productivity, pressure, or other people’s expectations define success, let’s break it down into three simple questions:
1. Purpose = Why You Care in the First Place
This isn’t about what looks good on paper.
It’s about what energizes you instead of draining you.
Ask yourself:
What moments in my life have felt most fulfilling?
When do I feel deeply connected to what I’m doing?
If I stripped away external validation, what truly matters to me?
✅ Your purpose isn’t about checking boxes. It’s about knowing what makes your time here feel meaningful.
2. Vision = Where You’re Actually Trying to Go
If you don’t know where you want to go, how can you tell if you’re on the right track?
Instead of measuring success by how much you’ve accomplished, ask:
What kind of life do I actually want?
What would fulfillment feel like (not just look like)?
If nothing external defined "success" for me, what would I be working toward?
✅ Your vision gives you direction, so you’re not just running in circles chasing the next achievement.
3. Mission = How You Stay Aligned (So You Don’t Keep Spending Energy on the Wrong Things)
A vision without alignment is like setting a destination in your GPS… and then driving in the opposite direction.
Ask yourself:
What boundaries do I need to protect what actually matters to me?
How do I make sure I don’t slip back into autopilot, chasing goals that aren’t actually mine?
What does intentional living look like in my everyday life?
✅ Your mission keeps you aligned so you don’t spend your whole life achieving and still wondering why it doesn’t feel right.
The Wild Part is That I’m Still in This Process.
The more I do this work—especially through Break & Bloom—the clearer my own purpose, vision, and mission have become.
And the feeling that comes with that clarity?
It’s hard to describe.
It’s exciting—because for the first time, I’m not just achieving for the sake of achieving.
And it’s a little terrifying—because chasing success is familiar, but building a life around joy? That’s new territory.
But if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this:
When you get clear on what actually matters to you?
Suddenly, everything you do starts to feel like it actually means something.
Final Thought: Stop Running Toward Someone Else’s Definition of Success
If you feel stuck or lost, you don’t have to do more.
You might just need to pause, reset, and ask yourself if the success you’re chasing is even yours.
Break first. Bloom later. Redefine success.
🌿 Kris
